How to Incorporate Children into a Wedding
Posted on: July 25, 2016

Aside from the traditional ring bearer and flower girl, there aren’t many roles for young children in a wedding. Unfortunately, this means that many couples are forced to leave out the children in their family or choose between them.

ring bearer photo
Photo by Mannia&Titta

If you want to incorporate more children into your special day, there are a number of nontraditional ways to do so. Here are just a few creative ideas that will allow all of your favorite kids to share in your wedding ceremony.

  • Add junior bridesmaids or groomsmen. If you have children or teens in your family who are a bit older, you can ask them to be “junior” bridesmaids or groomsmen. These roles share the same importance as traditional bridesmaids and groomsmen, but they may have less responsibility.
  • Add a train bearer. Just like you have a ring bearer, you can ask a little boy or girl to be a train bearer for the bride. This role involves holding the bride’s train when she walks down the aisle.
  • Have them hand out programs. Children between the ages of 5 and 10 will enjoy being in charge of the programs or hymnals at your ceremony. Instruct them to hand out these important items to guests when they enter the building.
family wedding photo
Photo by merfam
  • Add ushers. Both girls and boys who are a bit older can also act as ushers who direct guests to their seats.
  • Use multiple flower girls. Who says that you can only have one flower girl? If you have a few specials girls (or even boys!) in your life, give them all a basket of flower petals to toss before the bride comes down the aisle.
  • Ask them to do a reading. Since children are usually very excited about learning to read, asking a young boy or girl to give a simple reading at your ceremony is a cute way to make kids feel important. This task is best reserved for more outgoing children, or if the child is shy, he or she may like to do a reading with a partner.
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